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Let Go of Jealousy
Letting go of jealousy needs to come first. Dealing with envy and frustration may be the number one obstacle someone going through infertility must overcome. Who doesn’t feel jealousy when friends and family members conceive easily—especially when it seems everyone around you is either pregnant or caring for a newborn?
If you feel a heavy weight on your chest when your sister, sister-in-law, or friend calls and says she's expecting again, you're not alone. It's normal.
Feeling jealous, or even heartbroken, when you learn of a new pregnancy is fine. Just don't hold onto it.
Don't let it get in the way of your relationship with your sister, relative, friend, or their new child. Take a few deep breaths, and then let the pain go. If you don't, you won't be able to fully embrace your role as aunt.
Being an aunt not only comes with a number of rewards but it also can be very healing. In fact, a 2018 national study found that 89% of women said that becoming an aunt was much better than they ever imagined.
And, of the aunts surveyed, 91% felt their role as aunt was vital to the development of their nieces and nephews. While nothing will replace the desire to have a child of your own, you may still be able to find fulfillment and purpose in being the best aunt possible to the children in your life as long as you don't let jealousy stand in your way.How to Deal With Pregnancy Envy
14. Focus On The Bright Side Of Things
Negativity is contagious and can spread quickly; refuse to be that person who transmits negativity through your family, friends, and coworkers by complaining all the time. Instead, be that person who can look at the bright side of a difficult situation and keep tough times in perspective. This doesn’t mean to be unrealistic and overly-positive, it means to be that person who can look adversity in the face and focus on what you can control.Advertising
3. Share Lifelong Passions
“Growing up, every time I made honor roll, our school gave us tickets to White Sox games. My aunt, a die-hard Cubs fan, would take those tickets and donate them. Then, she would take me to Cubs games every time. She helped me become the die-hard Cubs fan I am today.”—Julie Zulanas
10. Smile More
Research shows the confident people smile more. I’m not saying walk around with a beaming smile from ear-to-ear at all times–that’s creepy. What I am saying, is if you are in a good mood, make sure you don’t forget to tell your face. Additionally, smiling at others will trigger the mirror neurons in their brain to smile back at you–it’s contagious. People with great social skills are approachable, and nothing says, “Let’s be friends!”, than a genuine smile.
How do you spell aunty in Australia?
Aussies tend to use ‘aunty’ more, whilst the Brits use ‘auntie’. Both use aunty or auntie to refer to our Broadcasting Corporations, the ABC and the BBC.
Be There For Them
Kids need someone they can share their problems with, but sharing with their parents may feel awkward for them. Kids may feel that their parents won't listen without judging them or trying to intervene, when all they want is a sympathetic ear.
You can be a trusted adult who they feel comfortable talking to.
Hopefully, whatever things they choose to confide in with you will be normal childhood issues. In the event that they have a serious secret to share—the kind that must be shared with their parents or the authorities—you'll be there to hear it and help them through a difficult time.
Are aunts like moms?
Aunts may be just as important as moms when it comes to raising daughters, says expert. Aunts are like your mom (they may look similar) but are so much more fun! In fact, an expert says they may be just as important in helping raise daughters as mothers are.
Don’t let the past get in the way of showing up
If you have a fraught relationship with your sibling, it can be easy to let criticism or feelings of guilt or blame interfere with being there for a niece or nephew, Dr. Lakshmin said. Don’t let them. “Eventually, these little humans are going to be teenagers and adults, and you will have a completely separate relationship with them than the one that you have with your sibling,” she said.
Thinking about an aunt or uncle who played an important, if imperfect, role in your life can help lessen the pressure, she said.
My own uncle, for instance, taught me how to drive a car when I was 11. Sure, he almost got both of us arrested, but I’ll always look back on that time fondly.
Give them undivided attention
An overwhelmed mother of a mentally disabled child told how she appreciated the love her brother showed to her child. She said, “My daughter always felt like this uncle really loved her, and still does many years later. What did he do? He paid attention to her when he would visit the family. He looked at pictures she colored and praised her. He held her on his lap and told her a story or two. He hugged her and told her she was pretty. She loved visits from this uncle.
Give them a call
It’s fun for kids to receive a personal call from an adult, especially an adult they love. All you need to do is say you’re thinking of them, then ask them what happened at school or play that day. Just listening and commenting with an occasional “Wow! That must have been fun (or hard)” will do the trick. They will love that you care enough to listen.