Content of the material
- 1. You’re able to upgrade yourself and become better, faster, and stronger
- 5. You’re able to achieve greater success
- Looking Outside a Comfort Zone
- A FAST FASHION ENDORSEMENT?
- The 4 Obstacles to Expanding Your Comfort Zone
- Obstacle #1: Delusion
- Obstacle #2: Reality
- Obstacle #3: Complacency
- Obstacle #4: The Danger Zone
- PEOPLE WATCHING
- BETTER: Risk
- Recommended IQ Matrix Bundles
1. You’re able to upgrade yourself and become better, faster, and stronger
Success is not so much about how big your goals and dreams are, but rather, it is about how big and how much you can grow.
I always love to use the example given by Harv Eker in his best-selling book, Secrets of The Millionaire Mind. In the book, Eker said that it is not the size of the problem or your goal that is the issue, the real issue is the size of you.
Imagine if you are playing games and your character is at level 3. When you face an enemy at level 5, it will be a tough battle for your character because his level is too low.
What if you upgraded your character and becomes level 10? The same level-5 enemy will become an easy fight for your character. You can win the battle easily.
This is exactly what is happening in our lives. We think that earning $20,000 a month is difficult and challenging because our levels are low.
But for someone who is already playing at a higher level where they are earning $200,000 a month, earning $20,000 a month will not be an issue at all.
It is your level that determines your success and the results you get in life.
Therefore, work on upgrading yourself, your skills, your knowledge, and improve your character to become better, faster, and stronger.
When you become better, more skillful, and more knowledgeable, you can attract greater success.
For example, if you want to earn $100,000 a month, you first need to develop the skills and knowledge on how to earn that amount of money and then maintaining it.
There is no way you can make $100,000 a month if you don’t have the right mindset and skill to earn and manage it.
Remember this: You can’t get rich thinking poor.
This is why getting out of your comfort zone is important. When you do something you have never done before, you will get different results that you have never got before.
And the only way to do so is to venture out of your comfort zone and do things that are uncomfortable.
5. You’re able to achieve greater success
Yes, you can only discover new oceans if you are willing to lose sight of the shore.
If you don’t do what is uncomfortable, you will become like everyone else, doing the comfortable and living in mediocrity.
The more you are willing to fail, the more you are willing to experience, and the more you are willing to venture beyond your comfort zone, the more success you can achieve. As what Tony Robbins said:
“Success in life is the result of good judgment. Good judgment is usually the result of experience. Experience is usually the result of bad judgment.”Anthony Robbins
Most people look at failure as something bad. But it really is not. Failure is just lessons and experience. It is feedback telling you what went wrong and what you need to improve to get the right results.
Never be afraid of making mistakes and failures because they build your character.
The more you fail, the more you learn. And the more you learn, the better you can be.
The only thing is that you must not quit. As long as you continue to improve and be persistent with your effort, success will eventually be yours.
Staying within your comfort zone will never help you gain new experience and learn new lessons.
If you want to achieve something you never had, you must be willing to do something you have never done.
Success will come to you when you are willing to do the uncomfortable and difficult that most people shun away from.
Looking Outside a Comfort Zone
We all carry a comfort zone into every situation. In some situations, this comfort zone will be more expansive, and in other situations, it will be less expansive. Therefore in some situations, it will allow your psyche to expand closer to its full potential, while in other instances it will limit the ability of our psyche to expand past a certain level. What this therefore means is that your ability to do anything in a particular situation doesn’t depend on your potential, it’s rather dependent on your comfort zone. You might, for instance, have more potential than anyone you know, however, you will never live up to that potential if your comfort zone is constricting your psyche within critical situations.
Your comfort zone is, of course, a place where you feel most comfortable and secure. It’s a place where there is a great sense of certainty and predictability. Everything within the confines of this comfort zone is very familiar, and as such things seem easy and effortless to the extent that you don’t ever need to do anything that causes you any kind of discomfort. There’s just nothing new to learn and no new skills to develop. Everything you need to live within the confines of this comfort zone you’ve already mastered. That’s why life within this comfort zone feels so comfortable, warm, secure and cozy. It seems like a perfect little world where you can live out the rest of your days in peace and harmony. But then why are you so miserable?
You are miserable because you understand that your world isn’t really that perfect. Yes, you feel comfortable, secure and familiar with your surroundings, however, what you really want is “out there” beyond the confines of your comfort zone. You want “these things” because you see from afar other people enjoying “these things” every single day of your life. You, therefore, want to make “these things” also a part of your life, however in order to get to “those things,” you will need to leave the confines of your secure world and step into the unknown and unpredictable world that lies just beyond your comfort zone.
Within this outside world, there are a plethora of opportunities and marvelous things that you would love to bring into your world. However, you do have two major hurdles. First of all, you don’t know how to quite get to “those things”, or how to bring them into your world. And because you don’t know, this creates doubt and uncertainty. You worry about making mistakes, you reflect on “what if” scenarios, and you fear the unknown. And this is often enough to prevent you from moving forward.
Alternatively, you might know what to do. In fact, you might know exactly what it takes to bring “those things” into your world, however in order to get “those things”, you need to face certain challenges and potentially overcome specific problems that lie between you and the things you would like to acquire. And this all just seems too hard and arduous.
You, therefore, want “those things” beyond your comfort zone, however, because you will need to go through some roadblocks and challenges along the way, this disheartens you from ever trying. You just feel as though the discomfort you will experience pursuing “these things” will just be too much to bear. You think to yourself that your life is good enough. You might not have everything you really want within your current world, however, you have enough. You have enough to make yourself feel comfortable and secure, and that really is all that matters. Isn’t it?
On the surface, these are the things that really matter, however below the surface you just want so much more in your life. You don’t want to be one of those people who regrets all “those things” that they could have done but failed to try. You don’t want to be one of those people that mull over “what if” scenarios:
What if I did this…?
What if I did that…?
What if I pursued that goal…?
What if I took that risk…?
How would my life be different today if I took those chances?
Stepping outside your comfort zone might very well mean risking getting hurt, risking failure, and risking making mistakes. However, what are you risking staying within the confines of your comfort zone? What are you really risking missing out on if you don’t take a chance on yourself?
A FAST FASHION ENDORSEMENT?
There’s something to be said about quality of clothing. It’s always my recommendation to buy quality made goods over cheaply made clothing, at least whatever you can afford.
But I believe that when getting started, it’s okay to seek out fast fashion like H&M, Zara and Uniqlo. They typically offer trendier, form-fitting clothes for extremely affordable prices.
This is perfect for purposes of experimentation. Don’t be afraid to try on new things that you’ve always wanted to, but never did.
Get that scarf, suspenders, bowtie, and blazer.
Go f’n crazy.
The 4 Obstacles to Expanding Your Comfort Zone
Obstacle #1: Delusion
This is your Delusion Bubble:
Your Delusion Bubble is what you think your Potential is.
It changes all the time.
When I was in high school, my Delusion Bubble included me being an NBA player. Then pre-pretirement, it was being CEO of the company I worked at, Procter and Gamble. And now it may be my dreams of becoming some sort of taller, chiller Tim Ferriss.
Delusion Bubbles are problematic because they aren’t in the same place as our Potential:
So even when you muster up the motivation to push your Comfort Zone in deluded directions, you make no progress.
Because you’re fruitlessly fighting the second obstacle in the way of expanding your Comfort Zone into your Potential, The Force of Reality.
Obstacle #2: Reality
The Force of Reality is composed of various mini-forces like:
- Other people who are better than you
And Reality is stronger than you, so whatever effort you exert, you will never make any progress against it. But, because most of our Delusion Bubbles are directly opposed to Reality, we waste our willpower trying, anyway.
Take my former dreams of becoming a basketball star as an example. I tried as hard as I could to jump higher and shoot straighter, but the Reality of my genetics dragged me down.
It was hopeless.
And, since my fantasies of being the next Steve Nash were more in the direction of Delusion than my Potential, my efforts hardly helped me expand my Comfort Zone.
But at least I was doing something.
If you do nothing, the constant pressure of the Force of Reality will squeeze your Comfort Zone until it’s a raisin.
For instance, if I sit around blogging the same way about the same stuff all the time, the Reality of changing interests, technology, and my growing senility would cause my audience and influence to disappear. This would make me feel uncomfortable, so I’d abandon blogging and curl up inside my ever-shrinking Comfort Zone.
Worse yet, the third obstacle to expanding my Comfort Zone into my Potential will blow it backward.
Obstacle #3: Complacency
The Force of Complacency, like the Force of Reality, exerts negative pressure against your Comfort Zone:
But Complacency isn’t as powerful as Reality. If you push the edges of your Comfort Zone directly into it, you can overcome it and inch forward into your Potential.
Complacency is an incessant headwind, so you have to constantly resist it. If not, it’ll push your Comfort Zone backward—away from your Potential and toward the fourth obstacle: your Danger Zone.
Obstacle #4: The Danger Zone
This is your Danger Zone:
The Danger Zone is where bad things happen to you. Things like:
And the more time you spend in your Danger Zone, the worse they become. But we do it anyway because, for most of us, part of our Comfort Zone overlaps the Danger Zone:
This overlapping area is the Zone of Despair. Many everyday activities are within the Zone of Despair. They include:
- Drinking alcohol
- Eating junk food
- Watching TV and porn
- Consuming social media
- Frivolous spending
- Saying yes to meetings you don’t need to attend
These activities are alluring and pleasurable, and Complacency pushes us toward them, so we tend to spend more time than we should doing them.
And some lunatics do even worse by pushing the edges of their Comfort Zones toward their Danger Zones:
The border separating our Comfort Zone from the fiery inferno of the rest of our Danger Zone is the Sanity Line. It shields you from doing uncomfortable and dangerous nonsense like smoking fentanyl, gambling your entire fortune on a single bet, stabbing yourself in the leg with a pencil, or trying to run across busy highways blindfolded.
People push against their Sanity Line thinking they’re “getting out of their Comfort Zones,” which we’re all told is a good thing to do. It’s not. It’s insane. Doing so only pushes your Comfort Zone further away from its Potential.
Now let’s use this model to look at strategies for doing the opposite.
While the internet is great, it’s also a good idea to look for style inspiration out in the real world.
Start studying people. If you spend time at the coffee shop, give yourself a few minutes observing the people around you.
Take mental notes. Try to break down someone’s style and maybe think about why that person decided to wear what he did.
By becoming conscious of what people are wearing, over time you’ll begin to appreciate style and learn what you like and don’t like.
“A risk is something you’re not sure you’ll be successful at,” says Britten. “It’s something you wish you could do, but never believed was possible for you. It’s kind of an extension of who you are already — it’s in the same arena — but you have an ‘I can’t’ attitude about it. A ‘what if I suck?’ kind of fear.” Example: Michael Jordan’s (brief and mysterious) baseball career. Playing a different sport was a big risk, even for an elite athlete like Jordan. And it didn’t work out too well for him, either.
Risk it: Staying on the same theme you chose for stretch, give something up. Make it difficult. Make it scary. Make it be something you never thought you could achieve. Giving up sugar (or alcohol, or meat, or caffeine, or gluten) for a month? No Sundays spent couch-potatoing it this season? No more hiding in the corner at parties… ever? Yes.
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