How To Finger A Woman And Make Her Come With Your Hands

The *Right* Way to Pleasure Her With Your Hands

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What’s the problem with those lists that always promise she’ll have the best orgasm ever? For starters, their success rate is nil. Since every vagina is shaped slightly differently, the moves that get women off vary from lady to lady. Meaning, every woman needs something a little bit different in order to reach the big O. Also, that “something” might not expressly involve your dick, since only 12.9 percent of women consistently reach orgasm through penetration alone.

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The good folks at OMGYes know all about this struggle. They created a platform to help spread the word about what women prefer in bed, with scientific data visualizations of how many women like what and why, video demonstrations by real women who love each technique, and virtual simulations that teach you how to execute each move.

How does OMGYes know all this stuff? They’ve done their homework. Recently, they conducted a study of 2,000 women with the goal of figuring out the fingering techniques and methods that feel best for different women, and why.

While there’s no “one fingering trick finishes all” technique, there are some interesting insights from the study that can help steer you in the right direction. Here’s what thousands of women had to say about the precious art of fingering.


Don’t be afraid to bust out the lube! 

In addition to your fingering techniques, lube is one of the greatest things you can incorporate to enhance the sensations and pleasure for yourself or your partner. Whether or not there is penetration involved, lube keeps things slippery and smooth and helps avoid too much friction or chaffing which can quickly become uncomfortable. You can start by dabbing a coin sized amount onto your fingertips or hand and then rubbing them together (this just helps bring the lube closer to body temperature as cold lube can sometimes feel a little startling when applied onto the vulva directly out of the bottle). Feel free to add more and more as you go. Some people like just a little extra slide, and others like it really wet! Whatever you do, remember to reapply as needed to keep things slick throughout your sexy time.

And other areas too

Although clitoral stimulation is typically what feels best for women, you still want to get other parts of her body involves. Play with her breasts, thighs and hips. You can also take breaks away from her clitoris to tease her. Try dipping one or two fingers into her vagina. If you’re dextrous, you can even try fingering her vagina with one hand, and her clitoris with the other.

Do You Know How To Stimulate Her G-Spot?

At first, you may want to use just one finger slowly inserted inside her with your palm facing the roof.

Make sure the finger is well lubed and the lube is at body temperature. A cold hand will sharply reduce her arousal, and you will have to build her arousal back up again.

There are three basic motions that can be used to stimulate her g-spot with your finger(s).

The first motion (and the most important one) is the come hither motion. The fingers are curled upwards and moved in and out towards your palm.

This is what can quite often make her have a squirting orgasm.

The second motion is the windscreen wiper motion.

The curled fingers are moved from side to side across the g-spot, essentially wiping her g-spot.

The tips of your fingers will be pointing towards her left hip and then her right hip. The third motion is the barrel roll inside her. Use the tips of your fingers to make a circular motion inside the vagina.

Use the three motions with either one or two fingers to stimulate her g-spot.

How to Finger Your Girl: Tips and Tricks

Now that you’ve learned the proper techniques, you might think that you’re already ready for some finger action but step back right there. Keep in mind these tips and tricks first. This will ensure a safe, fun and pleasurable experience for you and your girl.

1 Clean your hands

Having clean and sanitized hands will prevent your

Having clean and sanitized hands will prevent your partner from having infections.

2 Clean and smoothen your fingernails

Buddy, you’re supposed to make her squirm in

Buddy, you’re supposed to make her squirm in pleasure, not pain. Cut and file those long nails before the deed.

3 Have a water-based lube within reach

The vagina can produce lubricants when fully arous

The vagina can produce lubricants when fully aroused. However, there are times that the vagina can’t self-lubricate. With that, the lube is your bestfriend. Cover an ample amount of lube in your hand/fingers when fingering her.

4 Go slow

One of the best ways on how to finger a girl is by

One of the best ways on how to finger a girl is by starting it slow. Kiss her all over. Play with her boobs for a bit. Dry hump her. Tease her pussy for a bit. Make her crave for more.

5 Stimulate other parts of her body

While your one of your hands is busy fingering her

While your one of your hands is busy fingering her. You can also use the other hand to massage the other parts of her body such as her boobs or butt. You can also suck her nipples, lick her ear or passionately make out with her.

One of the biggest insecurities for women is the look of their pussy. Take some time to genuinely rave about it. This will make her less conscious of her pussy and focus on the pleasure instead.

Ask your partner how they like to be fingered‍

As you’re trying touch techniques, you’ll want to check-in and see how your partner feels about what you’re doing and what they might like done differently. While it’s always wonderful to ask someone how they’d like to be touched, not everyone will have the language to explain that. It’s often easier to give a choice between two things, like “harder or softer,” “faster or slower,” “left or right,” etc. Not only does this not require too much thinking right at the moment, but asking for that kind of feedback allows someone to say what they want with less fear of hurting your feelings. 

Your ideas

Do you have a technique or experience you can share? Or do you have any questions or thoughts about the ideas in the article?

Feel free to leave a comment below!

How To Use Props When You Finger Her

Interested in making your fingering techniques even more fun, naughty, and pleasurable for her?

Good! Well listen up…

Props can be simple but effective ways to bring out her naughtiest side.

For example, have you ever used a blindfold?

Covering her eyes so that she can’t see a thing wi

Covering her eyes so that she can’t see a thing will do a couple of things.

Firstly it will massively heighten her sensations.

Think about it – if you can’t see a damn thing then all your attention will flow to the part of your body that is being stimulated.

The result?

A doubling or tripling of pleasurable sensations being sent straight from her pussy to her brain.

Secondly: many women are insecure about their body image.

And who can blame them with all the photoshopped perfect models and Instagram girls these days?

But when she can’t see herself, she simply stops worrying and starts enjoying the intense sensation of a well-placed finger on her g-spot.

Additionally, it’s just super naughty and kinky – just look at how popular 50 Shades Of Grey is – women love this stuff and secretly fantasize about having it done to them.


Handcuffs are another prop that can be very effectively used to make a girl orgasm using just your fingers.


It’s a control thing.

There’s a reason women are obsessed with the
There’s a reason women are obsessed with the 50 Shades Of Grey books and films

She wants to give over control to you. So when you handcuff both of her hands to the bedpost, blindfold her so she can’t see a thing, and then use these amazing fingering techniques to stimulate her like never before she going to practically pass out from pleasure overload.

Handcuffs are a symbolic way of you saying

“Baby, this is all about you”

“You’re all mine, and I don’t want you to do anything but lie there and enjoy what’s about to happen.”

There is something that women find extremely kinky and exciting about being handcuffed and ‘taken care of’ by a man who knows what he’s doing.

And this causes a surge of adrenaline that adds to the neurochemicals being released when your finger her – the result is a cocktail of pleasurable chemicals flowing through her body.

(And yes, those natural chemicals being released by her own body can be highly addictive – don’t say I didn’t warn you when she comes begging for more and starts initiating sex at every opportunity.)

And by the way, you don’t need to use actual handcuffs for this to work.

A belt…

A tie…

Her own panties…

all work great to tie up her hands and give up control to you.

Positioning advice

Manual stimulation can work in most positions. So as long as your hand can reach her vagina, and you’re comfortable, you should be fine.

A half spoon position can work well. As she lies on her back, lie on your side next to her. You can put your non-dominant hand under her neck so it doesn’t get trapped between you. And your dominant hand will be on top, so has complete freedom of movement to touch her.

I’d advise against standing positions or you lying between her legs in a traditional oral sex position. You’ll probably find your wrist cramps up from working at an awkward angle.

10. Pay Attention to Her Reactions

Many of the study’s participants reported that the guys who are best at fingering are the ones who start off gently and then try different moves, while watching and asking for feedback. They also ask questions that don’t put their partner in a tough spot. For example, questions like “Is that good?” or “Are you close?” are not the direction you want to go. Instead, ask questions like “Faster or slower?” or “Higher or lower?” The answers to these questions will actually give you useful information to make the pleasure better, and keep your ego intact.

Internal Anatomy

Once you figured out how to rub the right parts by learning the parts of the vulva, you can now dive deep with the internal parts of your partner’s genitalia, particularly with around the vagina. Once you know the right spots, it will be easy to learn the best ways on how to finger a girl.

1 Vagina

It’s a tight and hollow tube that connects y

It’s a tight and hollow tube that connects your partner’s vulva with her cervix and uterus. It might be tight at first but this tube is very stretchy and expands when you feel aroused. The vagina also has the different spots that can make your partner squrim with pleasure.

2 G-Spot

You’ve probably heard this a lot of times, b

You’ve probably heard this a lot of times, but do you actually know where it is located? As seen in the diagram above, the G-spot is located about 2-3 inches inside the anterior wall of her vagina. It has subtle ridges that will be helpful when finding this spot. Just make sure you make her super horny first before rubbing this spot.

3 A-Spot

Looking for a deeper spot? Well, there’s the

Looking for a deeper spot? Well, there’s the A-spot. As you can see in the diagram above, it’s located on the anterior wall by the cervix. Also known as the ‘deep spot’, you can assure powerful vaginal orgasms when this spot is stimulated. However, it can be pretty hard to reach with your fingers. Investing in sex toys such as or long vibrators or dildos may help you reach this spot.

4 Cervix

As seen in the diagram above, this is located at t

As seen in the diagram above, this is located at the end of the vagina that divides your vagina and uterus. It’s very sensitive and may cause some pain when stimulated. However, some women find it pleasurable. That being said, communicate with your girl about this first before stimulating her cervix.

5. Be all ears

And on that point… As things heat up, it’s important to tune in to your partner’s bodily response, the directions they give you and any sounds they make. If you switch up the rhythm or direction of your touch and things get quiet, course correct. If your partner moans, gasps, their breathing gets heavier or they let you know that they like what you’re doing, it’s safe to say you’re on the right track.

When it turns hot and heavy, move closer to your partner and allow yourself to get lost in their movements, pleasure and breathing. It’s never not important to be attentive to your sexual partner’s body language, but it’s tantamount for fingering. There is no advice that will serve you better than listening to your partner’s wants and needs, so make sure you take note.

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3. Start slow

Remember, it’s a marathon not a sprint. Vulvas respond well to stimulation that is sensual and slow. This is because it takes an average of at least 15 minutes of stimulation for a vulva-owner to reach orgasm. Fingering is not an exercise in instant gratification. Instead, it helps to think about it as a story with a beginning, middle and end.

Don’t start at the end of the story by launching straight into clitoral stimulation. Instead, craft a narrative: slowly reel in your partner’s attention, draw out new characters and twists, build up the tension and then – only then, when they are hanging onto each word – is it time to unveil the ending.

Start slow and gentle and steadily increase the speed and intensity as you gravitate towards more sensitive terrain. This isn’t just about setting the right pace: it encourages blood to flow to your partner’s genitals. This amps up their arousal, making them more receptive to intense stimulation and pulling them closer to the beginnings of orgasm.

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